Comments on: Stay or Go? The Job You Hate, But Are "Lucky" To Have http://www.nicktasler.com/2009/03/stay-or-go-the-job-you-hate-but-are-lucky-to-have/ National Author and Speaker Tue, 15 Nov 2011 17:49:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: admin http://www.nicktasler.com/2009/03/stay-or-go-the-job-you-hate-but-are-lucky-to-have/#comment-5 admin Thu, 02 Apr 2009 20:16:47 +0000 http://www.nicktasler.com/?p=132#comment-5 @Pat Thanks, Putt. I feel your past pain and can only imagine how much happier you are now slinging your funnies to Second City audiences. It's a pretty impressive accomplishment. @Dave You're exactly right, Dave. In fact, my research shows that 75% of people ar likely to see question #2 exactly as you pointed out--scared to venture into the unknown. Knowing what I know about the psychology behind it, I can't in good conscience recommend that they jump anyway. Some are probably irrationally frightened. But if that irrationality translates to real anxiety once they get out on their own and find that they can't sleep at night, well...I don't want to be responsible for their nervous breakdown! :) On the other hand, many people good benefit from a little nudging. But ultimately, they have to reach their own personal rock bottom before it makes sense to act. Otherwise they'll constantly live in self-defeating state of regret. When they no longer have a good answer to "what do I have to lose" is probably the signal that it's time to follow their restless impulse. @Pat Thanks, Putt. I feel your past pain and can only imagine how much happier you are now slinging your funnies to Second City audiences. It’s a pretty impressive accomplishment.

@Dave You’re exactly right, Dave. In fact, my research shows that 75% of people ar likely to see question #2 exactly as you pointed out–scared to venture into the unknown. Knowing what I know about the psychology behind it, I can’t in good conscience recommend that they jump anyway. Some are probably irrationally frightened. But if that irrationality translates to real anxiety once they get out on their own and find that they can’t sleep at night, well…I don’t want to be responsible for their nervous breakdown! :)

On the other hand, many people good benefit from a little nudging. But ultimately, they have to reach their own personal rock bottom before it makes sense to act. Otherwise they’ll constantly live in self-defeating state of regret. When they no longer have a good answer to “what do I have to lose” is probably the signal that it’s time to follow their restless impulse.

]]> By: Dave Sohigian http://www.nicktasler.com/2009/03/stay-or-go-the-job-you-hate-but-are-lucky-to-have/#comment-4 Dave Sohigian Wed, 01 Apr 2009 21:29:02 +0000 http://www.nicktasler.com/?p=132#comment-4 Nick - great post! I think the problem for many people is that they can't answer either question. #1 is hard for many people to answer because they have never thought about their career goals. #2 is hard because people hate change and always imagine it will be harder than it actually is. So in many cases people just stay with what they know rather than take the risk (and perceived stress) of making a change. I would be curious to see a post about how to deal with those particular impulses. Dave Nick – great post! I think the problem for many people is that they can’t answer either question. #1 is hard for many people to answer because they have never thought about their career goals. #2 is hard because people hate change and always imagine it will be harder than it actually is. So in many cases people just stay with what they know rather than take the risk (and perceived stress) of making a change.

I would be curious to see a post about how to deal with those particular impulses.

Dave

]]> By: Pat Barry http://www.nicktasler.com/2009/03/stay-or-go-the-job-you-hate-but-are-lucky-to-have/#comment-3 Pat Barry Wed, 01 Apr 2009 19:39:41 +0000 http://www.nicktasler.com/?p=132#comment-3 Hey Nick - Great post! I did the same out of college: took a shitty job I knew I would hate because the pay was high. Although I had an English degree to your Psychology degree. I woke-up unhappy everyday for 3.5 years. I owned a condo with Billy G and he bought me out when he got married. That's all I needed to quit. It's been 3 years since I left and my life has turned completely around. I wake-up with a smile on my face everyday and have an actual "cool" job that people like to hear about. Keep up the good writing and I hope all is well in the land of 10,000 lakes. Best, Putt Hey Nick -

Great post! I did the same out of college: took a shitty job I knew I would hate because the pay was high. Although I had an English degree to your Psychology degree. I woke-up unhappy everyday for 3.5 years. I owned a condo with Billy G and he bought me out when he got married. That’s all I needed to quit. It’s been 3 years since I left and my life has turned completely around. I wake-up with a smile on my face everyday and have an actual “cool” job that people like to hear about. Keep up the good writing and I hope all is well in the land of 10,000 lakes.

Best,

Putt

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